Every day, I see parents who feel powerless and helpless in the face of dyslexia. I want to hug them and reassure them that yes, they do have control, and they can help to reverse dyslexia.
You hold this power also. It may not seem like you do, but oh my, you have much more control over the situation than you think.
You may not be an educator or medical professional, but as a parent, you have more impact than anyone on your child’s success. And it’s not about money—I have worked with children and parents from every economic and social level, and there are certain essential ingredients any parent can give his or her child. Here is a list:
- First, your love and support of your child helps satisfy basic instincts and brain needs. Your child must feel cared for before she can learn. It all begins with calming the survival part of the brain and making your child feel secure. Wealth, toys, and fancy clothes have nothing to do with creating a sense of warmth and safety for a child.
- To help your child feel safe, establish routines, rituals, repetition, and rhythm. Is there a daily rhythm and routine in your household? Getting up at the same time, going to bed at the same time, and having meals at the same time all count towards calming your child’s nervous system. Children love limits…how far can they push you? They are begging for boundaries so they know what they can expect and count on from you.
- Celebrate your child’s strengths. Take time to notice what he does well naturally and then encourage his natural talents. Start by simply noticing what he likes to do when he doesn’t have to be doing anything? What does he gravitate to?
- Read this blog so that when you talk to your child’s teachers, they’ll take you seriously as someone who paying attention and knows what is going on. The more information you can give them, the more they can help your child. However, remember that you are the expert on your child.
- Stop yourself from speaking when angry. The words that come out of your mouth will be coming from a reactive place, and probably not a kind place. Remember the old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me?” That is so untrue! Words can hurt, and those words can echo in your child’s psyche for years.
- Create time to do things as a family on a regular basis, and plan one-on-one time with each of your children and your spouse. This quality time is precious for everyone. Leave your concerns and thoughts at the door, and just be present. This kind of time builds up a bank account of treasured memories for your child to hold near when times are rough.
The next blog will continue the discussion with more ways you can help your child at home to reverse dyslexia. Please comment with any questions or further ideas—I’d love to hear from you, and let me know how I can help.