Observations on the Stages Of Healing
What I’ve seen in the office:
Labeled and Frustrated: Most kids come to BFHC as another effort by parents to help their children. The kids have been labeled as “special” “dys this or that” or have a new set of letters to describe their behaviors, they have been tested and failed (or passed depending on how you look at it) . The level of frustration of the kids coming into the office is often quite high.
New Sensations and Input: They sometimes resist and are reluctant to “believe” change can happen. Some kids notice changes the first day. Parents and kids both question if “it can be happening already”.
A perceived hurdle is the diet. We are asking kids to be “different” in yet another way. Often dropping sugar from the diet seems daunting to both the kids and the parents. When we put a time limit on the sugar elimination, as well as saying “do the best you can” this seems to give permission to not be “perfect”, which in turn seems to give the kids strength to commit. Quite frankly, getting kids to be aware of the “sugar” in their diet is major step.
Stages of healing take place on many levels. Most of us think of healing in the physical. The neurological system, while invisible to the eye, is a physical system of energy. The “kinks” or “shorts” in the electrical system of the body have both physical reasons as well as emotional and mental. BNT is working on all 3 levels without having a “story”. This usually happens about midway through the program. Sometimes there is resistance, rebellion, and defiance. Sometimes there is more laughter, ease of movements, and calmness. Some kids, sleep more, feel lazy, don’t want to talk, other are energetic, full of new ideas, and playful.
Resistance and Rebellion: If resistance and rebellion show up, we think it’s good news. We have talked to some kids on the phone, helping to get them in the car to come to the session. Dr Books is very respectful of boundaries. We have sessions on the table, under the table, on the bears, in the toy room, with the bear, dog, or favorite toy. There is so much laughter and giggling, singing and drumming during sessions that kids often forget why they are here.
New Sense of Freedom: By the end of the sessions, kids have a new sense of freedom. They have proof in the sessions they can read and often they are noticing a difference in their own behaviors. The older kids are finding they have options for higher education, the younger kids find hope for good grades and less frustration. My 15 year old son pointed out to me, that my belief in his brain injury was holding him back. With this belief, I altered my expectations, what I presented to him, what the expected results would be.
Many symptoms see their root causes transformed with BNT: There is also a dark side … bi-polar, depression, anger issues, sadness. It’s basically the same process with BNT. We have young adults changing addictions and behaviors. How beautiful it is to see these young people leaving the clinic with a fresh start on life, whether it’s faith in themselves to read or complete tasks in school, or it’s the strength to see a light in the tunnel. Hope for a future is a blessing!
My personal experience with my son:
Think things through instead of reacting:
The first thing I noticed about my son (15) was his ability to think things through instead of reacting. This critical thinking was a major improvement. A logical thinking process instead of his usual reactions. Brain scans show he has a brain injury in his frontal lobe. This also gave me some insight as to why he was so “lazy” when he was reading. He wouldn’t even try! It also explained why his first reaction to pain was anger.
18 months down the road, after BNT, he is reading and comprehending what he is reading. It’s been gradual over the last 2 years. This semester, his first in a formal school situation, he has a 100 in LA (language arts). The confidence in himself has shifted to a positive view. Part of this journey with our children is to believe in change, not to expect certain behaviors from the past to continue. My mother used to tell me “don’t believe everything you read”. When did this sage advice get dropped. I’ve read dyslexia is permanent and when we can drop this belief, we will serve our children better. When we see the ADD in our kids, let’s explore the amount of exercise they get, the foods they eat, the subjects they desire to study. My observation of my older son when he couldn’t sit still for math, was go outside and play for a while and then come back. One client with a 5 year old who had some anger and behavior problems, noticed when they walked to school in the morning (verses drive), the 5 year old didn’t get in trouble that day.
I would love to tell people step one, two….however none of us have the same experiences in life, so how can I tell you “this is what is going to happen”, because even then… the future is like a rose bud unfolding. My son is finding a new belief in himself, new opportunities he may not have explored, and a realization of his own participation in life.
Observing My Own Progress: In addition to transforming how I perceive and believe as a parent, I want to share my personal ponderings after observing my own body’s responses to BNT. There is really no way, at the moment, to prove this next report. I observe when C1 (top vertebra of the spine) goes out, my hips shift forward, which puts pressure on my knees. I know I need work on C1 when my knee hurts. My pondering is around how many knee and hip replacements could be avoided by the BNT work. I think Reversing Dyslexia is only the tip of a very large iceberg (so to speak) BNT is helping anger issues, bipolar symptoms, dyslexia, ADHD …. the electrical system controls the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of the body. I do not want my children, or myself, living in a house full of electrical shorts and loose wires. If we think of our body as this house, it certainly makes sense to have the electrical system working correctly! Ahh… if we could start with a clean slate. BNT is offering a clean slate.