Here are three perspectives about becoming a BNT patient or client: One from our educational consultant, one from a parent, and one from office staff.
“From an Educational Consultant”
WHAT TO EXPECT
The Transformers by Educational Consultant Kathy Balcer
No, not robots; the kids that transform in a good way from participating in the Books Neural Therapy!
If your child is starting Books Neural Therapy (BNT), I wrote this article to help you know what to expect.Research shows that most people that want a personality change or want to be more successful think they need to consider what aspects of their “old self” they want to change, distinguish what it is they want to emulate and then try to change their attitude to be more positive, confident, and decisive. In other words, take action and effort the change! How does that work with our kids?
Some parents that are worried or unsatisfied about their child’s academic, social or emotional behavior are unsure what to do to change that behavior so they cajole, bribe, or set negative consequences to try to make their child change; some just worry and fret, and love, love, love. Others have been to treatment after treatment with their child with little improvement. Effort? Lots!
Often parents come to Books Neural Therapy (BNT) hoping for a change in their child because one of their friends or acquaintances has seen their own child emerge with better strategies for academics; less ‘efforting’, more confidence, more relaxed social skills, being in better touch with their feelings with an ability to express them.
When I first begin the evaluation session for a student starting BNT, some are not sure why they are at our office and some say they are there to improve their reading. It is often said in a tone of shame or remorse for not being better; they are already measuring themselves and making sure I know they may not do well. Sometimes skin color is poor and energy levels are low. Once I begin testing, I hear, “I can’t do that”, “I don’t know how to do that”, “I’m not good at…..….”, lots of sighing, or tense effort to write and come up with answers on the academic and motor pre-evaluations. I don’t ‘fall’ for it because I know there are some blocks in the way that will get dissolved during BNT that cause a child to bloom ‘into their own’. It’s exciting!
By allowing the student to talk about themselves during the testing, (“What’s the subject you like/dislike in school the most, which one is the hardest/easiest for you, what’s PE/athletics/recess like, what do you love doing, what do you wish was different at school”) the relationship with our office begins its journey.
There are some stages during that journey with BNT that may come up for your child as they come each week. This is just what I’ve noticed; you may see some other characteristics, which I would love to hear about!
1) Reticence – “Why are we doing this?”, “This is stupid!”, “I don’t want to go!”, “I’m not stupid!”, “Here’s one more thing that proves I’m dumb”.
2) Resigned – Here we go again – Brainercises, homework?!! WHAT! No sugar! Ahrg………………
3) Semi-enjoyment – Students begin to know what to expect; they feel Dr. Books’ unconditional love/acceptance of them as she makes coming to treatment fun (during treatment she sings rhymes, makes noises, sometimes her adjustment tickles). Trust is blooming!
4) Reluctance – This starts about treatment 10-15. “Do I have to go?” “I’m too tired, can we go tomorrow?”, “Why are you making me go?” This is good news! The body and neurology are starting to shift into the right place and it can be a little uncomfortable emotionally or physically. Hang in there parents!
5) Laughter – Somewhere between the 14th and 17th treatment, the joy of who the child is begins to burble over – some students crack jokes, most students smile and laugh at almost everything, they enjoy a hug before they leave, their eyes are clear and shining, they make statements like, “I can’t wait to see you Thursday!” . Most students are more willing and enjoy doing their Brainercises and feel better off of sugar (they brazenly start to tell their friends about the down side of sugar and how to balance that or get the sweet tooth onto something healthier)
6) Mild “uh-oh” – I know that is not a term, but during weeks 17-20 the student is more relaxed, confident and realizes treatment is about over. The student makes it clear on the last few visits that they are coming back and love coming to BNT!
7) Confidence – A post academic and motor evaluation happens the last week of treatment and students are not daunted by it. No sighing, no “I can’t do this”, more focus and less ‘efforting’ seems to be the norm as they complete the academic and motor post evaluation.
A lot happens by treatment 20!
Please ask questions anytime about your child’s journey toward health. This journey is a very exciting one that we love watching students take! Many emotional and physical blocks to your child’s health and success dissolve and you see YOUR child in his or her magnificence; a journey worth taking!
Kathy Balcer, MA
From a Parent
Seeing with New Eyes
Transforming as a Parent Beside a Changing Child
By Rosita Alvarez
As a parent seeking to improve the life of my son, I journeyed through many stages of healing along his side. I passed through an entire spectrum from denial all the way to liberation thanks to Books Neural Therapy.
Yes, Denial was first. By six, I knew he was smart as he could memorize oral lessons effortlessly and repeat long poetry out loud. He could draw superbly and tell creative stories with funny imagination– better than most his age, yet he could not understand his letters phonetically at all or in writing. Two years later not much progress as I hoped he would be like the other “Waldorf method” kids who learned to read at age eight. I saw he couldn’t read a number any easier than a letter of the alphabet.
Unceasing worry was next. I finally went for help as he also was getting migraines now, even with new glasses. With much worry, my hope dissolved at with new glasses. With much worry, my hope dissolved when he was diagnosed at the age of eight with multiple learning, sequencing, and processing “disabilities,” including auditory processing issues and sensory integration to name just a few. To see the flame of the love of learning start to be crushed in him was like swallowing a bowling ball. The weight was unbelievable as my love could not change this situation.
A strange pseudo-relief came with labels I never wanted applied to him. It was a bit of a relief to have an explanation for his struggles and to understand that his problems were not the result of his personality or lack of effort. Nevertheless, the labels did not offer any hope to replace the dread of a life-long battle with learning disabilities.
The Battlefield: Warriors for and against each other. Over the next three years we fought together to do his homework, and we fought each other many times about how to get it done–to use homeschooling, to attend the Waldorf school, to attend public school, and to pay tutors. Finally, with the help of an incredible special education teacher whose methods required tremendous repetition, my son went from doing first grade level work in third grade to correctly processing English sounds in fifth grade and graduating from special education. In the following summer, he became an avid reader at a twelfth-grade reading level. In middle school, he qualified for the Gifted and Talented Program.
Then came the college-prep high school. My son is an emotional 14-year old, and learning a new language and higher math sequencing at a challenging school brought all the original learning issues to the forefront again. He picked Chinese instead of Spanish even though he couldn’t hear and distinguish the different tones of Chinese. I begged him to drop the class, but he was determined saying, “China is connected to everyone’s future, and I want to be prepared.” Near failing and stressed out, he met with teachers and took private math tutoring, barely passing his classes in ninth grade.
The Tentative Leap of Faith: Risking believing there is a way to turn this around when I heard about Dr. Books’ method of Books Neural Therapy™ (BNT). If so many people could be helped, why couldn’t my son be one of the 4 out of 5 who benefited from BNT? When we had our BNT screening in the summer and he put his fingers in his ears for the auditory test, I saw his legs go weak. He reported this caused the familiar pre-migraine feeling, so I could see the BNT process was pinpointing his root issues. Hope stirred in me again as this approach actually offered a solution.
Baby optimism stage. Not getting ahead of myself–One day at a time. He described how it felt to start the treatment saying , “She is like a Star Wars master and uses ‘The Force’. I can feel changes happen when she barely touches me.” I harnessed my excitement to not be disappointed, but I was optimistic.
Stillness for him. Wonder for me. After his first few treatments, he was very sleepy right away. He is even more sleepy next day. I knew deep healing could take place in this “deep sleep”, trance-like state that I tried to protect by driving him home and waiting in car with A/C going until he wakes naturally. He was like pudding, thick and slow, unfocused and transforming. It was going by so fast, can it really work and hold? Dr. Books explained to help my understanding of the biofeedback wonders of putting wavelengths into him through a machine. By sending signals to his brain as his nervous system is getting physically stimulated, she could remind his brain of the frequency of different positive emotional states and reset his “vibe”. This got my eyes looking at perceiving him as changing. My attitude now is look for evidence of positive change instead of evidence of this not working.
Seeing with New Eyes: Noticing “whole being “changes unrelated to learning. Can his emotional body grow through this, too? Yes, The chip on his shoulder (from his dad suddenly dying when he was eight) seemed to fall off in one week of the Intensive treatment. His need to be bullying his sister and the neighbor boy ceased. Others told me they noticed the change in him.
Celebration of a new normal. He can hear Chinese better now and passed all three years of it. He holds his own at a competitive college in New England. He learns with more ease and less stress. He accepts himself more. I wonder if the transformation will last, but I see him continuing to mature and let go of his anger. He doesn’t adopt diet or lifestyle changes, so his ADHD tendencies still come and go. Now it is time to go in for tune-ups with Dr. Books, because he is back to sugar and soccer headers and therefore some sequencing errors. He can barely remember how much BNT helped three years ago because he is fundamentally better. I remember the old struggling boy and smile that he can barely remember how he needed so much help. That is a good thing to forget!
View From The Office
Observations on the Stages Of Healing
What I’ve seen in the office:
Labeled and Frustrated: Most kids come to BFHC as another effort by parents to help their children. The kids have been labeled as “special” “dys this or that” or have a new set of letters to describe their behaviors, they have been tested and failed (or passed depending on how you look at it) . The level of frustration of the kids coming into the office is often quite high.
New Sensations and Input: They sometimes resist and are reluctant to “believe” change can happen. Some kids notice changes the first day. Parents and kids both question if “it can be happening already”.
A perceived hurdle is the diet. We are asking kids to be “different” in yet another way. Often dropping sugar from the diet seems daunting to both the kids and the parents. When we put a time limit on the sugar elimination, as well as saying “do the best you can” this seems to give permission to not be “perfect”, which in turn seems to give the kids strength to commit. Quite frankly, getting kids to be aware of the “sugar” in their diet is major step.
Stages of healing take place on many levels. Most of us think of healing in the physical. The neurological system, while invisible to the eye, is a physical system of energy. The “kinks” or “shorts” in the electrical system of the body have both physical reasons as well as emotional and mental. BNT is working on all 3 levels without having a “story”. This usually happens about midway through the program. Sometimes there is resistance, rebellion, and defiance. Sometimes there is more laughter, ease of movements, and calmness. Some kids, sleep more, feel lazy, don’t want to talk, other are energetic, full of new ideas, and playful.
Resistance and Rebellion: If resistance and rebellion show up, we think it’s good news. We have talked to some kids on the phone, helping to get them in the car to come to the session. Dr Books is very respectful of boundaries. We have sessions on the table, under the table, on the bears, in the toy room, with the bear, dog, or favorite toy. There is so much laughter and giggling, singing and drumming during sessions that kids often forget why they are here.
New Sense of Freedom: By the end of the sessions, kids have a new sense of freedom. They have proof in the sessions they can read and often they are noticing a difference in their own behaviors. The older kids are finding they have options for higher education, the younger kids find hope for good grades and less frustration. My 15 year old son pointed out to me, that my belief in his brain injury was holding him back. With this belief, I altered my expectations, what I presented to him, what the expected results would be.
Many symptoms see their root causes transformed with BNT: There is also a dark side … bi-polar, depression, anger issues, sadness. It’s basically the same process with BNT. We have young adults changing addictions and behaviors. How beautiful it is to see these young people leaving the clinic with a fresh start on life, whether it’s faith in themselves to read or complete tasks in school, or it’s the strength to see a light in the tunnel. Hope for a future is a blessing!
My personal experience with my son:
Think things through instead of reacting:
The first thing I noticed about my son (15) was his ability to think things through instead of reacting. This critical thinking was a major improvement. A logical thinking process instead of his usual reactions. Brain scans show he has a brain injury in his frontal lobe. This also gave me some insight as to why he was so “lazy” when he was reading. He wouldn’t even try! It also explained why his first reaction to pain was anger.
18 months down the road, after BNT, he is reading and comprehending what he is reading. It’s been gradual over the last 2 years. This semester, his first in a formal school situation, he has a 100 in LA (language arts). The confidence in himself has shifted to a positive view. Part of this journey with our children is to believe in change, not to expect certain behaviors from the past to continue. My mother used to tell me “don’t believe everything you read”. When did this sage advice get dropped. I’ve read dyslexia is permanent and when we can drop this belief, we will serve our children better. When we see the ADD in our kids, let’s explore the amount of exercise they get, the foods they eat, the subjects they desire to study. My observation of my older son when he couldn’t sit still for math, was go outside and play for a while and then come back. One client with a 5 year old who had some anger and behavior problems, noticed when they walked to school in the morning (verses drive), the 5 year old didn’t get in trouble that day.
I would love to tell people step one, two….however none of us have the same experiences in life, so how can I tell you “this is what is going to happen”, because even then… the future is like a rose bud unfolding. My son is finding a new belief in himself, new opportunities he may not have explored, and a realization of his own participation in life.
Observing My Own Progress: In addition to transforming how I perceive and believe as a parent, I want to share my personal ponderings after observing my own body’s responses to BNT. There is really no way, at the moment, to prove this next report. I observe when C1 (top vertebra of the spine) goes out, my hips shift forward, which puts pressure on my knees. I know I need work on C1 when my knee hurts. My pondering is around how many knee and hip replacements could be avoided by the BNT work. I think Reversing Dyslexia is only the tip of a very large iceberg (so to speak) BNT is helping anger issues, bipolar symptoms, dyslexia, ADHD …. the electrical system controls the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of the body. I do not want my children, or myself, living in a house full of electrical shorts and loose wires. If we think of our body as this house, it certainly makes sense to have the electrical system working correctly! Ahh… if we could start with a clean slate. BNT is offering a clean slate
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